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Mothers and their teenage daughters
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Mothers and their teenage daughters I met a woman 3 years ago on line. We went on a date and clicked imediately. We went on a couple more dates got hot and heavy and I mean it was wonderful. >>! Everything was text book as fas as a new relationship could go. A year went by and we were growing closer and closer. I lived out of town so when she would come see me she would say my house was here sanctuary away from her 15 yr old ( thus the plot thickens ) 2 years went by and now she has an engagement ring on her finger and we are walking down the isle. I sold my house, she sold hers, we bought a lovely home and moved in. There was Me, my lovely wife, and her now 17 year old . 3 years go by and here I am single again!! What happened you say? ( two words ) The !  This would lay around all day do nothing no chores, if you asked her to load the dishwasher she would groan and moan. She would take plates and cups to her room then after a few days bring back everything and put it on the sink for her mother to clean up. She did all this and still got $30.00 a week allowance. needless to say after a year of watching her play her mother I was starting to get a little tired of it, but held my tongue cause I was not her father. Then one night after I just hit the sheets the door bell rings at 12:30 mid night on a weekday night. The and her BF ordered pizza as they sat in her room. I was pissed!! I had asked her not to order stuff after 11 pm on a week night as I have to get up at 6 am. This showed no respect for a whole year while in the same house. I got up and voiced my concern quite loudly. The next thing I knew the mother and moved out with the mother saying she could not have her ( 18yr old ) live in an unsafe environment!! Can you believe that?? I lost my wife my life over yelling at an 18 year old. so. the moral to my story.,..Make sure when meeting someone they don't have a from hell.   |
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I agree, growing up my Mom and Dad would use capital punishment on me, and you know what I turned out pretty good ( well that's what my mom says) LOL But in retrospect I can;t put all the blame on the daughter, the Mother let her get away with everything, and always put me second. In the end it was the fact she cared more about her daughter then me. What I can't understand is why did she marry me if that was the case? Oh well water under the bridge..LOL
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LOL wana get married? LOL
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LOL...the honeymoon it is where do you want to? Mexican Riviera? Disney world? LOL Ok separate tubes of tootpaste...I want separate tooth brushes..
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ok 4 star it is, but I get to lead when we dance. And no I never leave the seat up, I grew up with my Mom and three sisters...I was taught at a very early age....LOL
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3/21/2007 8:12 pm |
Hmmm, I guess it isnt so simple as you raise the topic. I am a mom of two teenagers, I was married with someone who was not the dad of my children. It is not something so simple for any of the parts, you must think that this is a very difficult age along which they must pass, especially if you considere that they have to share their mom with someone who is not their biological dad, they have to adapt to coexisting with a person who is a stranger for them. I think that it is not an easy experience for anybody, it needs many patience, tolerance and desire of things advance towards a harmonious climate. Thereabouts the problem in your case maybe that the mom could not put the limits in time, but it is never late, and remember: when you get involved with a person who has already passed her 30 you must keep in mind that she comes with a rucksack piggyback, a history and it often includes children. And mainly, never forget that a mother, from all people in the world, will always choose her children with all the faults they may have!!!!!!!!!!!
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7/22/2007 10:31 am |
I raised my kids on my own and they never knew I had lovers. My oldest son asked me once why I didn't have boyfriends. He was in his twenties then. I told him he wouldn't want to know. He chased men off when he was little. He was better than a teenager for that. He was the little man of the house. It is hard living as a single mother. I am a dula and one of the main things I do with families with new babies is focus on the mother's relationship with her husband. So many break up because they say everything changed after the baby. Well, duh! I am proud to say, no families broke up under my watch. L'Oracle de L'Amour
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7/22/2007 10:32 am |
Oh, yes, thanks for the comment on my blog. L'Orarcle de L'Amour
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hehehehe ani,, so true hun, will put you on my watch blog list now , and will keep up with them, hugssss tc angell
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8/5/2007 3:37 pm |
First off...so sorry you had to go through that as i'm sure it was/is very painful for you...so for that accept my empathy.As a mother I must tell you it is our responsibility to prioritize our children.I say that even "if" you were the father.I agree with two thing's you said,1-being that which dosen't kill you,only makes u stronger and 2- The mother carries some blame...cos she allowed her daughter to hold her position and she took on the daughters.I want to offer you some comfort in saying it probably hurt that woman way more than you/I or any1 will ever know to leave the man she loved & married..cos its her responsibility as a parent to put her kid/s first.So I said that to say this...you may not be the only 1 hurting over this decision, cos as a newly divorced woman...trust me I realize I must keep certain areas(my love life) seperate from my kids especially since they are male and the worst thing a woman can do is have her son...view her as a whore.It's bad on any kid m/f but we as women raising son's to be men, to go into the world and start families and they have a horrid outlook on women will only....keep the cycle of broken homes going on and more "suffering" children as that poor womans daughter may be.I also am offering a spin on that as a woman who's dad wasn't shit...we lil girls ADORE our daddies..and when we wake-up and realize daddy isn't half the man we thought he was, then seeing the hurt he put in our lonely mothers eyes it sends us spiriling into a world of pain that's hard to come out of.As we have no 1 to teach us what kind of man we should/shouldn't be looking for(are you seeing the sick pattern?)I hope now when you reflect on this you can pray for this woman who may be sitting somewhere bitter and lonely cos she grew up w/o any real direction.I know my opinion may not matter much here but,it's my $.02 worth.The ~past~,is just that...the "future" uncertain...your *PRESENT* open it... and *ENJOY* I hope this has helped....cos this was definately my Intent.{=}
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