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DILDOS Dildos - Why Use Them? Using dildos or just the idea of using dildos goes back many centuries. The idea of them has been recorded in paintings and sculptures as far back as the fourth and fifth centuries. The Book of the Kama Sutra features early dildos made of wood, leather and stalks. These recordings show not only women but men using them as well. So this toy, like many others, applies to no specific gender. But why would anyone want to use them? They don't vibrate. They don't twist. They don't rock-n-roll. So, why bother using them? Well, the following will shine some light on the subject. Dildo As Place Holder Some men have a difficult time keeping an erection and some women have very long fuses, meaning it takes her a long time to climax (there's absolutely nothing wrong with this). I actually fit in this category. As a result of this difference in fuses, sex can become a frustrating and unsatisfying experience. That's where dildos can be helpful. If the man climaxes early in the game, or even if the woman just takes a longer time than her lover, he can continue to penetrate her with the dildo. That way all sexual play doesn't stop. It gives him time to recharge his batteries and keeps her aroused. So when he's ready to come back into the game, she'll still be aroused enough to accept him. Good Vaginal Therapy Men who go through a sex change, find that a dildo is invaluable and is even prescribed by their doctors. The vagina that is created is not very elastic and needs to be worked. That's where the dildo comes into play, especially right after surgery. By inserting the dildo daily, the vagina will stay elastic and not close up. Fulfillment Some people like the sensation of feeling fulfilled in their vagina or anus. Whenever a toy, penis, etc. penetrates the vagina or anus, the muscles contract around it. Many people find this tightening of the muscles to be extremely pleasurable. Visual and Mental Stimulation Your most erogenous zone is your mind. And as much as many feminists won't admit, the penis is a symbol of power, no matter how great or small, it's still associated with power. Penetrating your partner with a dildo can make a fantasy of power play reality. Penetrating your partner with a dildo gives you a real up close and personal view of your lover's vagina or anus accepting the dildo. Some people find this to be extremely erotic, to see their lover pull in the dildo and push out as they get more excited. Men can't get this up close and personal view when he's penetrating his partner with his own penis. Exploration When used alone, a dildo can help a person experiment with different forms of penetration without the anxiety of a lover being present. This is especially true with anal penetration. Maybe you want to try it, but are unsure if it's as pleasurable as you may think. Instead of diving in with your partner, using a dildo alone can give you the experience without worrying about embarrassment. Oral Sex As you're engaging in oral sex on your partner, why not use a dildo to penetrate her at the same time? Fingers and hands are very erotic, but using a dildo can also be very pleasurable for her and will ease fatigue and stress that the giver may experience after a while. Safe Sex Dildos can be a very good form of safe sex. As long as your dildo is wearing a condom, you'll never have to worry about infecting yourself with dangerous bacteria and you can share your toy with a partner. Just change the condom before your partner uses it. A Sure Thing A dildo will never turn you down or tire out. You can use it whenever you want for as long as you want. The only downer is it doesn't cuddle after, but then again, it can't complain either! So are you convinced yet? No? That's okay, lots of people have been conditioned into believing that sex toys of any type are bad or abnormal. So don't' give up! Keep reading, there's still a lot more information for you to absorb and digest before making a final decision. Even if you're ready to go shopping, keep reading there's lots of information within this site that can make your dildo play more pleasurable, because adult toys don't come with instructions. Dildos - Misconceptions About If a man wants his girlfriend to use a dildo on him that means he has homosexual tendencies. Absolutely not. The man is engaging in a sexual activity in a heterosexual relationship. Being homosexual is not an activity, but a state of mind. Being homosexual is much more involved than just wanting to be penetrated. It's not the activity but the person you are and want to be involved in the activity with. My boyfriend thinks that my using a dildo will replace him. No toy can ever replace the loving touch and affection of another human being. A toy, especially a dildo, can enhance sexual play with your boyfriend. For some people, it's exciting to be able to get an up close and personal view of their lover being penetrated. When men are actually thrusting with their own penis, they may have a view, but not something that's as close as if they were thrusting with a dildo. Dildos are for lesbians only. This is a major fallacy of dildo use. Yes, some lesbians use dildos, but it's not because there's no man around. It's because they like the sensation of being fulfilled. A dildo offers a feeling of fulfillment unlike fingers or penises. No vaginas are alike and no vagina is the same all the time. Depending on what time of a woman's menstrual cycle, depends on how she would like to be penetrated or how fully she would like to be penetrated. Different sized dildos offer this convenience. Besides, there are so many non phallic looking dildos out there that lesbians are using, so that blows that theory out of the water alone. Using a dildo is not normal. Absolutely false! A dildo allows one to penetrate themselves in a variety of ways. Different times and different moods call for different types of play. A woman's vagina has different levels of elasticity during her menstrual cycle. Having a different sized dildos will give you a dildo for every occasion. A woman's vagina expands when she becomes excited, so a dildo will satisfy the craving for pressure and fullness that penetration provides. There's no rule that says only a body part can be used for penetration. Using a dildo allows you to express your sexuality, resulting in improved self esteem, resulting in being happy overall. Dildos - Different Kinds Thanks to the advancements in technology, the adult toy industry has been able offer all the dildo lovers out there a variety to choose from. For the longest time, the only dildos available were ones that looked like real penises. But as you will see, they come in all different shapes, sizes and colors. You know what they say, different strokes for different folks. Anyway, here are the basics. Penis Extenders Commonly known as Prosthetic Penis Attachments (PPA's), these are hollowed out vinyl dildos with an elastic strap. If a man has difficulty keeping an erection or difficulty getting one at all, he just slips his penis into the dildo, attach the straps around his waist and he can continue to penetrate his partner. They don't hold up as well as the dildo and harness combination. Since it's a hollow shaft, a flaccid penis may not give it enough rigidity to pleasurably penetrate. Some elastic straps don't hold it around a man's waist very well either. Double Dildo This is a dildo with a head on each end. They are sized from the smallest being 12" and go up to 18" long. The purpose of these is for two partners to penetrate each other at the same time. If the dildo has a plastic spine in it, it can be used for simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration on one person. Just make sure it has a plastic spine. After a while of use a metal spine can poke through damaging fragile genital tissues. They are available in rubber, jelly and silicone and in all colors, even clear. The only problem some find with a double dildo with identical sides is that each side is the same girth, which may not be appealing to both partners. Strap On Dildos This is basically a dildo that can be secured to a harness. The harnesses are available in a variety of styles but the basic ones resemble a jock strap or thong bikini. There is a long strap that fits around the hips or waist of the wearer that is attached to a larger triangular piece of material in the front. There is a hole in the front in the dildo will protrude from. There is also another strap or two that run between the wearer's legs and attach to the waist strap. Most harnesses are made of leather or nylon webbing and use a rubber ring to secure the dildo. I recommend my How to Purchase a Strap-On Dildo article for detailed information on this very important toy. Realistic Looking These are actually molded from a man's penis, many of male porn stars. Not only do they have the exact shaping of a penis, but they have the same coloring as well, with veins and some even have testicles with saggy skin. This is the closest style, you'll get to a real penis. Suction Dildo This fun dildo has a suction cup attached to the bottom of the shaft. This is great for use in harnesses and in showers. You can suction the dildo to the edge of the bathtub or the shower wall and ride your way to ecstasy. It's great for hands free pleasure and all dildos are water friendly. Chin Dildo This type of dildo, the Accommodator Dong, can also be considered a type of strap on dildo, but we have highlighted it on its own because it does not strap onto the wearer's waist. It straps onto the wearer's face between the mouth and chin. It protrudes from the wearer's chin to penetrate while giving oral sex to a woman. Dildo Ball This is great hand's free dildo play and it looks so fun. It's an inflatable ball with a dildo mounted on top. To use, just sit, squat, kneel or straddle the dildo with the ball between your legs. Because the ball is inflatable, you can easily ride up and down without worrying about hurting your genitals on a hard surface. The ball makes quite a squishy surface and you can get some serious bounce too. So there you have it, a variety of dildos available for your every need and desire. Are you excited yet? The fun doesn't stop here, my Shopping for a Dildo section will help you sort through your likes, needs and desires so you find the dildo that's right for you. The only thing you'll have to do is pick out the one that looks the most appealing. Dildo Tips - How To Use Dildos, just like every other sex toy, do not come with instructions. So this article should give you enough knowledge to rock your dildo. Remember there is no right or wrong when it comes to using a dildo. Just do what feels good. You will notice that this article is written for solo play; it's the best way to learn about yourself and your dildo. However, even if you want to experiment with your partner, this article can be applied to you as well. Lubrication, lubrication, lubrication The most important tip on using any kind of penetrative toy, such as a dildo, is to use a lot of lubrication. A dildo does not produce its own lubrication like a penis. Most materials will not glide easily if not lubricated. And if you plan on using a dildo, don't believe the misconception that women's own lubrication is all she needs. No matter how much a woman lubricates herself, there's nothing better then adding more. Many materials will also absorb your natural juices, resulting in a very unpleasant friction that can be very painful and leave one sore for days after. Make sure you're adequately aroused After applying a generous amount of lube to your orifice of choice, vagina or anus, (we cover anal penetration in the Anal Toys section) it's time to start play. Now you can't start any type of play with immediate penetration. So relax, lay back, stimulate your genitals with your fingers and/or hand. If you're playing with your lover, have him/her orally stimulate you first (flavored lube might be good here). Slow and steady penetration Insert the dildo slowly the first time and take a long deep breaths. Breathing deeply causes blood to rush to the genitals, helping them to engorge and relax. Short, shallow breaths or holding your breath stops all that from happening, resulting in tightness and tenseness. Once you insert it, try leaving it there for a moment before pulling it out. You don't have to penetrate yourself with the entire dildo. If it has a stubby head, just thrust the head in and out. Some women like deep penetrations while others like shallow penetrations. Remember it's your toy, you're in control. But vary it so you can feel different sensations. Lube up your genitals and dildo and rub it against your lips and clitoris, teasing yourself first then penetrate. Enjoy what you're feeling Whether you're using your dildo alone or with a partner, go slow and be gentle in the beginning. Take your time and enjoy what your feeling. If you find you're getting more excited and want it harder, faster or deeper then do it or tell your partner to do. Curved Dildo If you have a curved dildo, angle the curve up toward the front wall of your vagina, to stimulate your g-spot. Double Dildo If you're using a double dildo with a partner, be ready for some periods of awkwardness. Double Dildos aren't as easy to use as they seem. It takes proper positioning and coordinating your movements with your partner to do it successfully. An enjoyable position to try is the two of you lying on your sides back to back with your legs scissor together. Your head will be by your partner's feet as her head should be by your feet. You can also try both bending over, positioning yourselves butt to butt and riding the dildo together. Please be advised that one of you or maybe both may need to hold on to the center of the dildo to keep it steady. If you're using a Double Dildo on your own for simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration, make sure you buy one with a plastic spine in it. The spine will ensure that the dildo keep its position or it will keep popping out of one of your orifices. This interruption may be very unpleasant and frustrating. And make sure the spine is plastic because a metal spine may start to rip through the material after several uses and can damage your fragile genital tissue. The key to success The key to successful use of your dildo with a partner is communication. Your partner can't feel your reactions when using a dildo like he/she can feel with his penis or his/her fingers. This means that if you tense up from any discomfort, your partner can't feel that. And, if you are getting really excited and want it harder, faster or deeper, your partner can not feel you pushing harder or squeezing tighter. So you must communicate these needs to him/her. Don't be afraid of hurt feelings. There's nothing wrong with telling your partner what you want or need. The point of sexual play is too get off and enjoy yourselves, if you're not having fun, you must be able to switch gears to make it right. Dildos - Shopping For A Dildo Picking out your first dildo doesn't have to be overwhelming. In fact, it can be rather exciting and arousing. Whether you're experienced or a novice to dildo play, this guide will help you pick out a new dildo sex toy. The following are some questions to ask yourself to help you sort through your desires. To avoid confusion and misinformation, we will only be referring to dildos for vaginal penetration. Please see our Anal Toys section for tips on shopping for an anal dildo. What size is good for you? Length is usually a major concern in buying a dildo. Keep in mind though, that even if your dildo is a little on the long side, you can control how deeply you're penetrated. The size you should be concerned with is the girth. This is your toy, it's not a person's genitalia that you have to accept. You can pick out the girth that is most appealing to you. Something really thick can be uncomfortable, painful or totally divine. Something thin can be wonderful or totally unarousing. Here's a couple of methods to find a girth that's right for you. Method 1 - Vegetables Go to the supermarket and pick up a couple of different vegetables with different girths. For example: a fat cucumber can represent a thicker girth; a carrot can represent thinner girth and a zucchini can represent your in-between. Wash them good, apply a condom and lubrication for easy insertion. Play with all of them until you find one that feels the best. When you do, cut it in half and measure the distance across. That is the approximate girth that you want. Now you just have to find a material and style that appeals to you. Method 2 - Past Make Shift Toys If you have used something in the past to penetrate yourself with: i.e. fingers, penis, a toothbrush or hairbrush handle, get an approximate measurement of those. If those things weren't exactly what you'd like then use those measurements to find a thicker and/or thinner dildo. What do you want your dildo to feel like? If you want a smooth and firm dildo, try an acrylic, metal or glass dildo. Glass and metal hold body temperature well, acrylic tends to be a little colder and impersonal. None of them break down from lubes or vaginal secretions. They're very firm and don't provide any flexibility, but offer an extremely smooth material. If you want something that feels like the real deal , then try a cyberskin dildo. This is as close as you can get to real skin. It's very flexible, like the real deal. Some silicone mixtures can also feel eerily lifelike. If you want something that's smooth and has flexibility to it, then you want a silicone, rubber or jelly rubber dildo. They are easy to clean, but are porous, so make sure you use a cleaner and disinfectant. Using a condom will always make clean up a breeze. We recommend the Classic Dildo or the Mr. Softee Hot Pink Dildo. What appearance do you prefer? Penis Looking If you want as close to a real penis as you can get, then a cyberskin dildo is the way to go. Many rubber dildos are very realistic looking as well. Penis Shaped If you don't want something that looks like it could fill in for the real thing, than look toward the Jellies and Silicone. Some are the exact shape of a penis, but have a very playful look to them, since they come in a wide array of colors. Totally Non Penis Looking There are also many dildos available that don't look like penises at all. And they're just as fun too. The most sought after non-penis looking dildos are the new glass dildos. Not only are they the smoothest dildo you can get, but they are the most pleasureable due to the weight of them that feels so awesome inside you. They are so beautiful that they look like pieces of art. |
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