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Are couples compatible for life?
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Are couples compatible for life? We have been married over 30 years and although we have very much in common, a lot of the diversity and differences helped make our attraction work. We like a lot of the same things in life and have similar tastes in things like music, movies, holiday destinations, humour, home comforts and we love . Add to that our complimentary traits; I'm careful with cash, she spends like there's no tomorrow, I like to show off and be a clown, while she's sensible and reserved. I swear like a trooper and she's as polite as a grammar school girl. You get the picture.... We are like most middle aged couples who have had ups, downs, tragedies and triumphs, hard times and contentment. One thing we have never been compatible in is sex. When we met I was fairly experienced and she was a virgin and had a very prudish outlook on anything to do with sex. But that had it's own charm, right? We took our time and patiently learned what was acceptable and enjoyable and what was to be strictly taboo and there was a lot that was to fall into the latter. We were so in love and the other great parts of the relationship made it an easy decision to get married and make the most of what was good in our sex life. I was always a hot-blooded, high sex drive male with an eye for lovely ladies and an addiction to giving and receiving pleasure and loved to explore/experiment. My wife will never wear stockings or sexy lingerie as she feels they are 'tarty' and has never masturbated, watched porn or erotic movies and detests sexual swear words of any kind. She occasionally enjoys mutual fondling and in the past ten years we only have sex once/twice a week - and only at weekends. She does not give oral, although she has done a handful of times in the past, telling me she did not like it so it was abandoned 20 years ago. I used to give her oral, but several years ago she asked me to stop as it felt unnatural for my mouth to be 'there' - after years of accepting my tongue? We talked about it and other sexual matters and the conclusion was 'I knew who I was marrying and she would never change and I should look elsewhere. Any fantasies I ever had since we met, have been dismissed out of hand and although I still love her and she loves me, I feel we could have had much more. However I am too old now to start again, but I have some regrets about how frustrated I have been for so long and wonder if other couples in our age group have had similar compromises to make to adjust their lifestyle? I |
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Thank you very much for taking the trouble to comment; I do indeed count my blessings as we have much to be happy about and have survived many crisis. We are also one of the few couples in our 'circle' to still be together. However, sexual frustration is a very heavy monkey on your back at times and her suggestion to play away was not permission, it was a sarcastic remark.
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