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warning! warning! This blog is about LTR's! enter at your own risk!
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warning! warning! This blog is about LTR's! enter at your own risk! just having a good laugh at life...gotta have a good sense of humor sometimes! This is just me, rambling on my thoughts here....sipping my coffee on a rainy afternoon. I am 61 years old. A woman of size. lol Both are reasons my pool of suitors is just about nil at the moment. Even so, there have been a few times when a FWB status was offered..by guys I'd only chatted with for a few days and by guys I'd chatted with for a few months. And yes, their profiles did state that's what they were interested in. And no, I was not teasing them by chatting with them when I ultimately decided a FWB with them was not what I wanted. I am open to the idea and, with the right guy, it might happen. I think it's my wanting a bit more than a FWB relationship that makes guys shy away (along with the reasons stated above). And I don't blame them if that's not what they want. Are there no guys...local or not so local...who are interested in the same thing I am? boyfriend/girlfriend, exclusive...not just a roll in the hay until they find someone better...sighs...shakes my head as I write this...if I found someone I liked...and trusted... enough to have sex with them...and then after awhile, something happened and it just wasn't working for me anymore...I would want the freedom to cut those ties and move on...I trust in myself enough to know that, though I was cutting the ties, it was not just a roll in the hay for me. And...what about distance when it's something like this kind of relationship someone is interested in? I would think that distance would be even less of an issue in this instance. You can use the fact that meeting face to face will take some time, affording you the time to chat and get to know the other person. Always better to be local and be able to meet face to face early on...but it's really a requirement if all you want is casual sex...not such a requirement if that's not your number one priority. I find it hard to believe that, even on this site, there are not that many guys interested....I've blogged about this before...what are guys afraid of...and the appreciated positive responses came from guys far away...they did give me hope that some guys are interested in a friendly relationship with a woman...always hopeful it might turn into more but ok if not. Anyways, that's what I've been thinking about recently... Oh, and I'm working on a little erotic blog...putting to words some thoughts drifting through my mind while on a recent road trip... smiles... Spirit Lover now...back to real life and packing for a move in a week... Read RESPECT WE all NEED to do Better and Re Petition to Stop Transsexuals from Using Female Profiles |
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Trust me when I say - your age and your size are not deterrents on this site. Good luck with finding what you want. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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6/23/2016 4:49 pm |
I wish you the absolute best of luck in finding what you desire. "Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250
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not compromising on what you want is a very good thing
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most men tend to shy away from any type of LTR or any friendship that has the implication of something more than just sex...I think those that are single(divorced, widowed, etc.) have been down the road of the "nagging" wife/GF/SO and really don't want to live through that again...and then there's the issue of sex getting boring or "not as much as we used to"...that's most likely their biggest fears....by not committing to any one person they can pick and choose who and when they want something with, in theory anyway...as a woman, I have the same type of fears....I like my freedom as I'm sure they do too and I don't have to explain myself to anyone yet I do have days where I'm lonely and just knowing I have someone there would be comforting....sure I'd love to have a BF but not another husband...one was enough for me I think....I like the idea of exclusivity...no worry of diseases, eventually could lead to no condoms, sex always gets better each time you're with someone as you learn what they like....but finding that one person who's on the same page as you is damn near impossible...
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My wife and I have a very traditional monogamous relationship. The only thing different is our attitudes, I think. We aren't normal or average in what we think about marriage, or serial monogamy, or friends with benefits. What works for us isn't necessarily right for someone else. I admire people who are saying no to traditional relationships, especially women. They're making their own choices instead of doing what friends and family expect of them. I've had it many ways- FWBs and NSA and fuck buddies and hands down, my present marriage is the best of all. When you meet the right person long term isn't going to be nearly long enough. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Bit of an update here...it really opened my eyes to read the responses here. It's great to hear all the different opinions. In case it was in question, marriage was never a part of the equasion in my thoughts. Been there, done that, won't do it again. lol I can definitely agree that having separate households is a good thing. At my age, we are a bit set in our ways and have grown to selfishly enjoy our private time. I do think exclusivity is what I had in mind here, though. You play with the one person until it just doesn't work anymore, as I stated in my original blog...then you respectfully, quietly go separate ways. Read RESPECT WE all NEED to do Better and Re Petition to Stop Transsexuals from Using Female Profiles
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