It just shouldn't be this hard
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Posted:May 7, 2008 6:33 pm
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2021 8:36 am
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Here are some thoughts that we have borrowed from another on this site, added some of our own and wanted to share with you. We are by no means a full time swinger couple, Jeff has had some experience and yes Samantha is a virgin (one time removed - lol) to the lifestyle. Over the past 2 years we've been on this site and noticed an incredible amount of frustration from REAL swingers because of the COMPLETE BULLSXXT from those pretending to be swingers.
This site is full of single men on profiles PRETENDING TO BE COUPLES and you have several couples pretending to be swingers. There are also web camers who just want to play behind the screen.
Everyone on this site is supposed to be an adult, 18 and up. But not everyone here acts like an adult. Again we are not porn-stars or a fxxk pro�s, but we have met some attractive couples over 2 years who are for real.
In our experience:
REAL SWINGERS all basically have the same MO.
FAKES on here also have the same basic MO.
Here is a little advice to anyone who's frustrated & fed up. This is for those who are honest & forthright about themselves & those sincerely looking for some adult fun. If you're a liar / BS�er or some sort of cheating single or spammer the following is to avoid folks like you.
1. PROLONGED CHATTING/CYBERING
Remember it does NOT take weeks and weeks or months of chatting to get to know someone for a night of safe clean adult fun; especially if that person or persons are within reasonable driving distance to you. Most real couples will tell you up front if they are interested or not or they will tell you why they can't meet you at a particular time. If that's the case, respect their wishes. Have NEVER met a real swinging couple that enjoyed cybering weeks and weeks at a time before meeting. If someone is hell bent on chatting and these chats always turn to some form of cybering weeks at a time asking for more & more pictures, its a good chance you are being teased & played. If the person or persons are out of state & planning to visit your area or you theirs, chatting for a time can be understandable but PHONE CONTACT should be established at some reasonable point.
2. PHONE EXCHANGE
The easiest way to bust a fake couple or a fake single male is with a telephone call. Told of a story where a friend says, �I just had the recent experience of having a �supposed� couple from South Dakota write me. They wrote me an elaborate tale of how they couldn't post any pictures (because of job/community) but claimed they could fly anywhere they wanted to for free. After chatting with them for 2 weeks of the same repetitive bullsxxt �tell me how you want to fuck my wife� I asked to exchange phone #s to speak with them directly - both the wife & husband. As you can imagine these chatters disappeared.� If you suspect a couple is a fake single male, ask for a phone # to speak with both of them at the same time, that cuts right through the bullsxxt 99.9% of the time. If a couple is a legit couple but you suspect them of being fake about meeting ask for a phone #, this usually runs them off all together.
If a single or couple is experienced, telling the truth about themselves, being legitimately interested in your profile & about meeting you offline they WILL EXCHANGE CELL PHONE #�s with you at some reasonable point & both will speak with you.
3. PICTURES
Pictures are worth 1,000 words. This place has 1,000s of pics, how can a person tell the real thing?
1.) Anyone who just has close up genital photos should be suspect.
2.) Anyone, guys, just standing around with hard-ons proves nothing. If it pictures look like they are from a professional porn website, they probably are.
3.) Couples or singles that don't have pics at least in their private album (network) should be considered suspect. Remember this is about meeting for great sex offline.
4.) Couples or singles new to the lifestyle may be apprehensive about sharing photos because they want to remain discreet. However, they need to share and will agree to meet or they should also be considered suspect. I've seen more stolen photos on this site than anywhere else. I've seen the exact same photos used by others in Greece, the UK & in several US states on this 1 site.
5.) Lastly the people who make excuses of having absolutely no pictures or those with blurry polaroids!!! Please this is 2008 a digital cam costs 50 to 150$. You know this but here it is: With picture program options of distorting & cutting anyone can post at least NECK DOWN PHOTOS OF THEMSELVES WITHOUT BEING IDENTIFIED by people in their communities. Again, experience says that 99.9% of the people who post no pictures in open profile OR in their NETWORK at all are FULL OF BULLSXXT in some way or another.
4. MEETING
Meeting is something that ever seems to be the final test. If Couples or Singles make numerous excuses why they can�t meet, they should be considered suspect. True, there will be things that come up and we all have busy schedules, some more busy then others, but at some point you need to admit that they are stringing you alone. Make a date and identify a location that is not that far away from where you are so that you don�t spend hours on the road only to meet up with disappointment. Note: couples and singles that have testimonials from ACTIVE GOLD or SILVER member carry a seal on authenticity. Inactive member testimonials should be considered suspect.
After all that said, there are real couples out there that are STANDARD members, with no pictures or testimonials. Most of the time they are new to the lifestyle and are taking things slow. Of these types of couples/singles, 99.9% are suspect. If you/they are part of the 00.1% of those that are real in this category, take that chance if you/they have the time to spend finding the �real thang�.
Oh, best of luck to you. It just shouldn�t be this hard.
Remember, the phone with all involved is probably the easiest way to cut through the bullsxxt. Best of luck.
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